A few years ago, I realized I have a certain advantage over other women. Well, besides the whole tall-blonde-smart-funny thing I’ve got going on.

Truth is, women — no matter how smart, accomplished or beautiful — tend to make a lot of the same failed assumptions and mistakes that lead to frustrating, unsuccessful interactions with men.

But, to put it bluntly, I’ve often been someone guys consider one of those “cool chicks” who they like to banter with and, well, hook up with. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve had my share of failed relationships and embarrassing gaffes. I’ve really screwed up some good things I had going.

That is, until I realized that I possess one of the most valuable tools when it comes to guys: Insider information.

I obtained a lifetime’s worth of guy-speak intel by spending my high school years in the varsity baseball dugout (as the scorekeeper), in college writing sports for the student newspaper, and professionally in the journalism industry, which is (still) overwhelmingly dominated by men.

I’ve made dozens of very close guy friends who’ve helped me with tons of dude problems over the years. They’ve gladly provided lots of insight into how guys think and what their behavior really means. Not in that condescending “mansplaining” sort of way. They really wanted me to be happy. I know that because it finally dawned on me that I’ve heard a certain phrase time and again:


What comes after that has been pure gold for this girl. It just took me a while to realize the treasure I had amassed.

So if you’re ready to get a behind-the-scenes view into what your guy (or potential guy) is up to, and you’ve got an open mind that your assumptions, expectations and even some of your deeply held beliefs might just be wrong, this blog is for you.

My goal here is to pass on the juicy details I’ve learned. I don’t want you to change the way you act, become someone you’re not or give up on what you want for your life and future. That’s not what this is about. But you do need to know what you’re dealing with.

So come along … you just might learn something new and start to love men a whole lot more than you already do.